Hi, I’m Mike. I’m 55, living in Leeds, and I’ve been dealing with the loss of my wife. She passed away from cancer last year, and I’ve been struggling to cope ever since. We were married for over 30 years, and now that she’s gone, I feel lost and alone.
The grief is overwhelming. I miss her every day, and the house feels so empty without her. I can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t focus on anything. The loneliness is crushing, and I don’t know how to move on. I feel like I’m just going through the motions, existing rather than living.
My children have been supportive, but they have their own families, their own lives. I don’t want to burden them with my grief. I’ve joined a support group for widowers, and it helps to talk to others who understand what I’m going through. But the pain is still there, every day.
I’ve started drinking more, just to numb the pain. I know it’s not the answer, but it’s the only way I can get through the day. I’m scared I’m becoming an alcoholic, but I don’t know how to stop. The grief is just too much to bear on my own.
If anyone out there is dealing with the loss of a loved one, just know you’re not alone. It’s okay to grieve, to feel lost, to ask for help. The pain doesn’t go away, but it does get easier to bear over time. We’ve got to keep going, for ourselves and for the memories of those we’ve lost.
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